death guilt

Feelings regarding Death

This morning we began learning/discussing what is required of a chaplain when a patient dies. The passing of a loved one generally does not initiate feelings of shame, invariably there will be feelings of guilt for some.

I know I’ll be given opportunities to be part of the experience when someone passes while at the hospital. It will be during those times that I’ll get to witness the potential feelings of grief and guilt of the family members, loved ones and probably others.

Our feelings are valid and it is important to seek the root cause(s) of these feelings, regardless of what others may say, feel or do. I know that I will also experience many different feelings when a patient passes. I pray for wisdom and insight to be able to seek out the root causes for me.

More will be revealed…

By Rev. Daniel Borysewicz

Rev. Daniel Borysewicz is a progressive chaplain and spiritual leader seeking radical inclusion for all people; regardless of race, nationality, sexual or gender identity, or socio-economic class. Daniel works to provide solutions for problems that individuals have difficulty dealing with; shame and internalized homophobia and transphobia are some examples, and assists in connecting people with others for mutual benefit. Social justice is also an important part of his work. Daniel graduated from Pacific School of Religion, May 2013 with a MDiv and Certificate in Sexuality and Religion and is currently working as a Hospice Chaplain in Walnut Creek and an Assistant Night Minister in San Francisco.